Sheba Remy Kharbanda

Creatrix | Visionary | Alchemist

Metaphysics Practice

13 Moons Project

Director

Installation - Five Rivers: A Portrait of Partition

Oral History - Vilayati Tarti/Foreign Land Project

Video

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Words

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Forthcoming

Bye bye for now, my beautiful Brooklyn/hello Blue Mountain NY.
Catch you all in late September on the other side of my residency at BMC. Stay bright and wonderful 💎✨🦋

Affair with Love IX
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The conversation with A, a dear friend and fellow visual artist, inevitably turned towards the state of womanhood. A is letting her hair grey out and I commented that it looked great, which is the feedback I get about my greys all the time and which makes me cringe, all the time. A, like myself, isn’t so sure about it all.
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A and I got talking about the cult of youth in this culture and how that’s inherently anti-feminist in many ways and definitely anti-woman. Stumbling across a passport photo from before the greys (and lines) and noting my own reaction to the same was a confrontation with the extent to which we internalize these anti-womanhood norms. That and the fact that as an older woman, my experience (borne of age) isn’t seen as a boon in this industry but as a bit of a hindrance. That image of the dried up woman comes to mind, no? We don’t ripen, we fade, is the attitude. On an inner level, this is not at all how I feel. I know my so-called “best” is yet to come.
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It has made me realize how radical it is for people - not just women or women identified people but the All of humanity - to just love ourselves. As we are, how we are.
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How many of us do? How many of us are permitted to love ourselves freely and without judgement (and not steeped in narcissism)? What else is the point of this existence? Certainly not to toil to mask the inevitability of the vicissitudes of life.
That’s the real trap.
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This is the paradigm shift. Deep, true, abiding 💙 for the self that truly knows how to love the All.
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This is power.

Affair with Love VIII
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When your only brother (now transplanted to Toronto awaiting visa clearance) tells you that he misses EZ the cat more than anyone else in NYC.
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Why?
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Because he can’t call EZ on the phone for a chat.
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I think the feeling is mutual. EZ the cat does not come by anywhere near as often as he used to since only brother left.

©2018 Sheba Remy Kharbanda